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Every parent’s dream is to see their child become upstanding, responsible, and successful in the future. But how does one know how to go about it? Dr. Johnny Holloway offers a new perspective in raising a child to become a mature adult.

The first part of the book pertains to Dr. Johnny Holloway’s experience while being raised as a child and how he tries to follow his parent’s methods when it is his turn to raise his own children.

Dr. Johnny then dedicates in the later part of his book a systematic approach to collaborative child-rearing that require both parents, other adults, and the child’s participation. The system has six stages, distinct to each other, and last over a period of thirty years.

Dr. Johnny encourages you to use this book as your guide to fulfill your parenting duties as well as gain confidence in child-rearing.

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Dr. Johnny Holloway is the founder and senior pastor of Cup of Salvation Deliverance Church and Ministries in Durham, North Carolina. He has built himself a reputation of being the spiritual father to many men and women, an internationally recognized theologian, and a family and relationship counselor. He and his wife, Pastor Deborah G. Holloway, have five adult children and fourteen grandchildren.



Like most parents, I made my share of parenting mistakes. Far too often, I didn’t listen well enough or investigate carefully enough before issuing a parental judgment upon my children. On too many occasions, I realized after the seminal moment had passed that not only had I been wrong, but I had been wrong in the worse way. I learned that often parents must grow up along with their children.

Parenting is the act of continually forming and sustaining a lasting and loving relationship with a child that will inspire him to become a mature adult. I assert that compassionate and constructive parenting is the best strategy for motivating a child to become a productive and stable adult.

Training a child is a collaborative process that requires mutual understanding and should provide mutual enjoyment for both parent and child. Parents must equip a child with timely information and then train him to develop dependable problem-solving skills that will consistently insure that he reaches wise conclusions and makes sound decisions.

Parenting is an ongoing activity that requires consistent effort and strong attention to details. Effective parenting strategies must be consistent and predictable, but they should also be compassionate.

When a parent begins to evaluate the type of parent he really is, he is well on his way to becoming a better parent.

I don’t want to blame my parents for not parenting me according to my expectations, because they weren’t required to meet my expectations. However, I should learn from their mistakes and I should be held accountable for doing a better job of training my children. I should also accept full responsibility for leaving a legacy of effective parenting strategies to my grandchildren. My parents gave me a fighting chance, but I want to give my children and grandchildren a chance to win . . . not simply to fight.

While I am happy that my parents taught me to obey them, I wish they had also taught me to honor and love them. I wish they had required (or even desired to have) a loving relationship between them and me.