Developing Social Skills on the Playground

Boosting social skills for children beyond the classroom


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School is fundamentally perceived as a place of academic learning. Parents are geared to encourage their children to do well in class and turn in their required work on time. However, social skills development in early childhood can easily be overlooked by some people because they perceive childhood as a carefree time.

A child’s early social interactions with people outside the family are usually gained at school, where he is exposed to his peers and figures of authority. He spends his time learning with his classmates, playing with other kids, and following directions from his teachers. Training your child to deal with the social aspect of school will better prepare him to be a well-adjusted individual. It is essential that parents pay attention to their children’s social skills and know how to develop social skills in children.

Here are some values, as discussed in Train Up a Child, ideally instilled in children in preparation for social interaction at school:

  1. Courtesy—no child is born courteous. It is up to the parents to bring him up to be considerate of others by teaching him to be empathetic.
  2. Mood—the child must learn that there are appropriate ways and times to express how he feels. He must consider how his moods can affect others.
  3. People skills—being in school entails some level of group work. The child must then be able to work with a team and learn the value of cooperation and unity.
  4. Temperament—he must be willing to control how he acts so as to maintain peace and harmony when interacting with his peers and superiors.
  5. Inclusiveness—he must learn to think of the needs of others. There is bound to be a point where two children’s needs clash. A child who is trained to socialize will know to adjust to such needs, like sharing his toys with a friend or taking turns.
  6. Language—the child must be taught the value of communication. Arguments and chaos are mostly caused by poor communication. Being able to socialize depends mostly on understanding and being understood. The child must be trained to understand himself and communicate his thoughts and feelings effectively.

Social skills for children are largely developed at home while children interact with their family, the basic unit of society. Instilling essential values is essential in establishing a child’s morals and decision-making facilities, which creates a solid foundation of how he interacts with others. Ultimately, a child learns by example. He acquires social skills incrementally by observing how you deal with others and from his daily interactions with his family.

Do you have your unique way of developing your children’s social skills? Share your ideas by dropping a comment below or interacting with me on Facebook, Goodreads, and Twitter. For more timeless advice on parenting, check out my book, Train Up a Child.



Lock, Cheryl. 2013. “Improving Kids’ Social Skills.” Accessed September 13, 2017.

Pinola, Melanie. 2014. “How Can I Help My Kids Develop Better Social Skills?” Accessed September 13, 2017.

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