Teen years usually ushers in growth spurts and puberty changes. It is also the time when there is an abundance of teenage angst and emotional outbursts. That growing period forms the foundation of a person, as it transitions one from a child to a thinking teenager. Teenagers are now concerned with abstract thinking, and they start to concern themselves with short-term and long-term goals.
Teenagers undergo tremendous pressure, not just within themselves but also from the people around them. Some must come to terms with the changes they experience, not only physically and mentally but also emotionally and sexually. There are expectations they have to meet, and as such, they are prone to disappointments. The struggle to belong, to be a part of something, is also a consideration. Teen years mean seeking to be understood, and in turn, forging relationships they hope to last. As a parent, how do you help your children get out unscathed as they struggle with surviving the teen years?
Parents go through the difficult phase of raising their child into adulthood. The teen years are the precarious stage where sons and daughters tell you one thing and do another. They are full of mixed signals. They will also resent being under your wing and choose the company of their friends. It is a period of exploration, of freedom from parental rules, of daring themselves to test the limit and plunge into adventures. They wish to prove that they can stand by themselves. The people they associate with every day are important because they are the one who will influence and help shape the person they will become.
That is why friendships, peer influence, and peer pressure during the teen years must be closely monitored. It is always wise to know who your child’s friends are; that way, you will be up-to-date on their activities outside your home. You cannot keep an eye on your child twenty-four hours a day. Engaging with their friends and supporting them in their activities will ensure your presence in their lives. You can be a guiding light instead of a formidable giver of rules.
It is also good if you can lend your ears for your child. The communication line between you two should be always open. Make it a point to ask about their day, to notice the signs of distress or anxiety. Make them comfortable enough to open up to you and ask for your support during the difficult times. But also bear in mind that you cannot impede their growth into mature adults. You cannot dictate their every move. You cannot live their lives for them. Let them grow on their own. Let them find their own strengths, form their own dreams, and make their own choices.
Teenage years must feel like forever for parents. Life will not be as smooth-sailing as before with teenagers in the house. But you as parents can do something to make it easier for you both.
If you are a parent who feels lost in raising your child the right way, then my book Train Up a Child might be of great help. In this book, I have included timeless strategies for guiding a child into mature adulthood. If you wish to talk about our topic further, do not hesitate to connect with me on Twitter, Facebook, and Goodreads.
Supper Nanny. “Surviving the Teenage Years.” Accessed September 21, 2017. https://www.supernanny.co.uk/Advice/-/Health-and-Development/-/Teenagers/Surviving-the-Teenage-Years.aspx.