In the past, parents allowed their kids to play outside whole day, walk to school, and other fun physical activities. Yet times have changed and so are parents’ attitude on how to raise their adolescents. These days, parents are overwhelmed by their parenting fears. Especially when it comes to their teens, they get so worried they constantly keep tabs on where they are and what they are doing.
It is no secret that parenting a teenager is one of the hardest responsibilities that parents do. Adolescents undergo many changes that may develop passive-aggressive behavior or self-consciousness that may lead to constant self-doubt or overconfidence and moodiness.
Parents have no control over parenting fears. Plus, the media’s sensationalized representation of the hazards that teens are exposed today fuels more of these parenting fears. These lead to the parenting style called helicopter parenting. It is when a parent or parents try to supervise or control everything that their kids experience. Yes, it does help in keeping their children safe, but it does more harm in the long run. Kids, especially teens, need to learn to do things on their own. They need to experience the act of talking to strangers, organizing things with their friends, and even failures. The lessons that they will get from these experiences will help in their development as individuals.
Here are some simple ways to avoid being overwhelmed by your parenting fears:
Always keep in mind that teenagers have unique needs, likes, and personalities. However, no matter how independent they may look, how withdrawn or disconnected to your family they may seem, or how troubled they may appear, your teenagers still needs your love, attention, and understanding. Be patient with them, and don’t allow your parenting fears to become obstacles to their development.
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Pincus, Debbie. n.d. “How to Stop Worrying and Avoid Helicopter Parenting: Don’t Do These 6 Things.” Empowering Parents. Accessed on October 2017. https://www.empoweringparents.com/article/how-to-stop-worrying-and-avoid-helicopter-parenting-dont-do-these-6-things/.