Things Parents Must Teach Their Adolescent Son

Here are eight ways to help your teenage son deal with his volatile teen years.




One of the most difficult stages of growing up is the period of adolescence. This is when hormones are raging, causing erratic behaviors in teenagers. The emotional storms are also rampant, with mood swings and roller-coaster rides of social ups and downs. As someone who went through the same phase, I know what it feels like to be a teenager with many issues. It is easy to imagine how difficult it is for parents to handle their children at this stage of their lives, much more if the said children are sons.

When I was a teenager, I had mommy and daddy issues. There was this deep-rooted anger that made me believe life cheated me, and I blamed anyone and everyone except my maternal grandmother and myself. That anger gave way to indifference, insensitivity, and distrust. It barred me from permitting anyone to hurt me, but in the process, I missed out on receiving and giving love. Love appeared to be a needless risk that I shouldn’t assume, and an emotional expense that I couldn’t afford. Instead of being motivated by love, as an adolescent ought to be, I was fueled by anger.

This could be detrimental to the foundation of an adolescent. Parents should know how to deal with this kind of issue. Although a mother’s love for her son is limitless, love alone cannot save him. The same way that a father’s advice to his son cannot suffice without guidance and constant support. There should be established rules and guidelines that will ensure their welfare, not just in the physical and emotional sense, but also in the mental and psychological aspects.

Here are 20 things to teach your son:

  1. Understanding Anger

Anger is a powerful emotional weapon that creates fertile opportunities for bad things to transpire. Helping your son understand its roots can do wonders. Much of it is unresolved issues from within that need to be addressed.

  1. Pain Is Natural

It is normal to feel pain. As a part of life, they must be dealt with an open mind and heart. A son must understand that parents will always be there for them as they go through this painful phase.

  1. Honest and Open Communication Is the Key

Teach your son to be open. Secrets must not be kept between you. You can only do this by talking. Tell him the importance of communication and make him feel that you are always willing to listen.

  1. The Importance of Authenticity

Young people are prone to doing things that can impress. It need not be that way always. Teach your son to be authentic. By this, we mean that he can be himself. When he keeps things inside, there is always the possibility of an implosion. It is better if he lets himself be.

  1. Mistakes Are Part of Life

Humans are eternally flawed. There is no use in pressuring your son to be the epitome of perfection. Instead, make him understand that mistakes and failures can teach them valuable lessons that will aid them in their journey through life.

  1. The Power of Kindness

He can be smart, but more than being smart, he should also be kind. Teaching him about empathy and compassion for his fellow human beings can make him a better person.

  1. Education Is Essential

Learning can be done even outside of school, but getting a degree or knowing a specialized skill can make a huge difference. Education is a competitive edge in this ever-changing world.

  1. Learning Good Coping Skills

We want to protect and shield our children from the harsh reality of life, but a sheltered life can do more harm than good. Let your son know that problems will arise. There will obstacles and challenges, sooner or later. But they can learn how to cope with the stress of not getting their way, to deal with disappointments, and to face disillusionment.

The relationship between parents and son must be one founded upon mutual respect, open communication, and constant support.

If you need more advice on parenting, check out my book, Train Up a Child. You can also follow me on FacebookGoodreads, and Twitter.

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